Online dating messaging
It’s nothing personal, you’re just not the right fit. If you feel that you have a lot of commonalities with this person and there could really be a connection, then gently check back a week later and say, “If you’d like to chat, I’m still interested in hearing from you.” If they don’t respond, assume they pass. If she writes back with interest, now it’s up to you to turn her interest into a date. A few back and forths are fine, but with each new round the person has a chance of backing out or losing interest.
You can continue to discuss the subject that is of interest to you both, or you can discuss another commonality: “Hey! Suggest a time and place near her (not near you) to meet up.
Providing the basics is 1) respectful because it doesn’t assume that she’s read your profile 2) announces that you are a member of society, 3) shows confidence. When you read her profile, notice what are her passions.
What are the things that are most important in her life? The more you can align yourself with the things that are important to her, the more likely she will be interested in you.
” When you say “I’m currently working on a screenplay,” that’s a hook that the other person can ask you about.
Say your prospective match is an environmental activist.
Would you send in a sloppy resume and a one sentence cover letter to apply to your dream job?
Would you blanket the market with a generic cover letter in the hopes that somebody gets back to you?
If she likes to read fan fiction, what are her most recommended titles?
If she’s a foodie, what are her favorite local restaurants?
Maybe she’s busy and not really interested in responding to anyone this week.