Dark triad dating
Her expectation of impressing you is one of the first telltale ripples of the red banner of danger.
It is important upon recognizing this particular flag to remain calm and not display distaste, disgust or distress. Communicate noncommittal observations, and make your exit. You will not change her methodology, you will not heal her spirit, and if you are hearing the story of her past atrocity you are being prepared for the block yourself.
It requires shared experiences and it requires that those shared experiences take place over time. Laughter usually is instantaneous and so are charm and first impressions and even the hot, magical thrashing that typifies the first night of mating. When a woman says “we have something magically inevitable” or that “our love is at first sight” or makes other statements that assume your agreement with the impossible, she is predicating the result on an unstable and damaged aspect of herself. But it doesn’t flip on like a Hollywood searchlight. If she is moving way too fast – “in a relationship” on Facebook and wanting to introduce you to her children and talking about “our love” and all of this in the first few weeks – you are correct to question the sanity of it. The Dark Triad Man has an internal locus of control, and does not succumb to the pressure of the hard sale.
The Dark Triad Man does not offer himself for execution. When you are aware of pride in sadism from the female, recognize the red flag of a damaged woman and fortify yourself with distance, detachment and the imperative of self-preservation.
Survival is the first of The Nine Laws and you will not dance with violation of it. Bit by bit, the damaged and deranged woman will assuage her abandonment fears by insidiously infecting your life and your time with her control.
To do so risks triggering the venomous bite of this particular snake, and it is not an injury or attention you wish to attract. Most of all, do not buy into the story that the victim of her past sadism was deserving of it for causing her pain. Revenge is gratuitous, selfish and abhorrent behavior and when a woman proudly proclaims her abhorrent acts you can be certain that she will do it again.
You are hearing the story as an involuntary warning from a sick and deranged individual.
You are not secure and set and ready to play at leisure in the dating world and select casually from the young women seeking what you have to offer.