Apergers and dating
Granted also that a lot of the way too much that I do feel is usually kept as being a part of my own world inner-experience and is not often shared with others. Being differently abled in this aspect of expression is often an implied negation of aspie ability to feel.More aspies than not feel a tremendous amount of empathy, compassion, sadness, happiness, and so forth. It is not natural for us to communicate and to express our emotions in a social/relational context the way that it is second nature to NT's. It is work and requires effort and energy."This difficulty in expressing emotions in a way that people outside the autistic spectrum can understand, can lead to ongoing challenges in personal relationships, both big and small.Typically, problems would arise when I wanted to raise a point over something that Chris had done or not done.The first time this happened was only three months after we had moved in together.
And I know that, for me, a genuine 'Sorry' and gesture of affection goes a very long way.
Chris seems to think that I resurrect this incident because I'm still angry about it, but he is very wrong.
I look back at it and remember it as one of those times that he ultimately let me realise how much I matter to him." Situations such as these can cause people with Asperger's to be perceived as uncaring or as lacking accountability, while the reality may be the opposite - they may be internally beating themselves up, but just don't know how to communicate it, make it right or how to comfort the other person.
The inefficient processing of emotion can be very draining - as the emotion temporarily takes over it can impede awareness and rational thought.
The emotional warning signs that are meant to protect you from difficult or harmful situations may malfunction, or work with such a delay that they lose effectiveness.
Chris arrived, and I hoped for an apology and some concern for how I felt physically and emotionally, but far from it.